So every time around this time the world of higher education can get hectic – and I found myself feeling underwater, never fully caught up with my email or the endless to-do lists, juggling so many different commitments. And, honestly, most of it is stuff I love! Does this sound familiar, planner pals? How do we balance productivity with self-care, and maintaining a steady and sustainable pace?
I got to do a lot of things, and made it through with only a few tasks slipping through the cracks… but the vision of productivity comes at a cost – I was not sleeping what I needed, which led to less focus at work and making less strategic and whole decisions, reacting instead of responding, and doing work just to do it. So how do we undo the life we have created for ourselves?
We often talk about saying NO – and the advice is less-than-stellar. “Just say no.” Okay, obviously if it was as easy as “Just” (omg pet peeve) then I would be doing it!! So what makes it hard? If we can address why it’s so difficult, we can reframe how we approach our choices… because if there’s anything that’s incredibly hard to learn, it’s that we are valuable just by existing. That we don’t have to keep doing things to earn our human value. That we are human beings, not just human doings.
So my video is short, and just barely touches on the specifics of how we can shift our thinking and just how hard it is to do so. I’ll elaborate here.
What I mean by disappointing people:
Now, whether or not these feelings are from others or from ourselves is probably the major question – either way, they feel VERY real, and often get us into trouble as we commit to yet another thing. Individually, things are very easy and simple – but in context of all our other stuff, it suddenly becomes overwhelming. And let’s be honest, we do it to ourselves. So here’s what I’m suggesting.
Some concrete strategies that help me manage my commitments, boundaries, and saying no:
That’s what’s worked for me- and maybe if you’re more introverted, these things come more easily to you! But what makes it hard for you to draw boundaries or say no? What strategies have worked for you?