Long time no see! Although I’ve kept busy with custom pieces and teaching classes, I felt like there were so many blogs out there I wouldn’t have much new to say. This blog has always been about sharing the things I learned along my planning journey the barriers for posting became higher and higher as I talked myself out of feeling “worthwhile” to post. But, screw it, here we go!
I’m cutting out all the bells and whistles in hopes to just get posting again. While I don’t have a ton of design ideas here to look at, I hope the prompts help re-frame how you approach your own.
It was refreshing to see 2019 be the year we critiqued how much the economy has commercialized self care. What started out as a movement to prioritize rest and tending to our own needs became opportunities to market spa treatments, justify spending too much on XYZ (#treatyoself), and selling books. This has worked on me countless times.
Though I love a good massage and indulge in those time to time, here is a snapshot of my thoughts on actual self care:
Planning is powerful because we can design our lives and take control where we can. There are many ways we can try to slow down our pace and use our planners to help do so!
I have a lot going on at any given time, socially, professionally, and otherwise and it will sometimes build into chaos. I realized that when I go too fast in my life…
It doesn’t happen all at once, it gets faster and faster week by week. So I’m wanting to make more structural changes in my life to slow this down. Instead of constantly living at 75 mph (and then crashing down to 25mph), I want to aim for a more consistent 55mph.
This means setting up boundaries. Which is hard because it means disappointing people.
This is the main barrier that gets in my way of actually taking care of myself. I create to-lists miles long because of things I want to follow through for others, I commit my time and energy to others, etc. Slowing down on my follow-ups and saying no to those commitments makes other people sad – I don’t like this feeling. So we make it work.
This is especially true for my fellow Enneagram Type 2’s out there, the Helpers who love to feel needed by other people but ignore their own needs. Or perhaps you’re an Enneagram Type 7, the Enthusiasts who feel intense disappointment and FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) if they don’t go to the latest social engagement and miss out on their own needs.
Whatever the root cause is, you have to deal with letting that go so you can prioritize your own stuff. At first, this shift will feel disappointing because you may not respond to emails as quickly, complete tasks as often, know all the latest movie or inside joke references, but it gives you more time and capacity for yourself.
With technology, marketing, and ever more events and products, the world is moving faster than our minds can even process. So it’s going to take a lot more energy to resist that movement. Even though I’ve named what I think the issue is, I am struggling hard to resist it myself.
So how do we slow down? What are concrete things we can do? Some ideas:
Lots to read, but perhaps this will resonate with some of you as it has with me. If you have other ideas, tips, tricks, please comment below or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Until next time,